Don’t complain! Ask this question instead

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All of us get stuck and feel tired and crushed at many points in our life! Whether it’s a relationship not going well, a work challenge, your children, a financial problem or a health dilemma. On the path to our goals in life, something almost always gets in our way and then our brain takes over, and we start overthinking. Overthinking almost always leads to feeling down, helpless and stuck !

As a leadership and executive coach, I have found that this one powerful question almost always helps to get me and my clients on the first step to getting unstuck in the most common challenges of everyday life !

Think about the situation you’ve been complaining and sulking about. You probably feel like the victim and feel justified in your complaints and that there is nothing you can do about it. Now, ask yourself this question :

What exactly do I want? How can I help make that happen for myself?

It’s a simple question that shifts your focus from the past to the future. Complaining focuses on what you don’t want. Solutions focus on what you do want. It is empowering to declare what you want and need. And even more powerful to take steps that lay the groundwork to get it. It all begins with asking – then answering – this question !

Try it and share with us how it works for you 🙂

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